There are certain traits & qualities that will result in me never even coming close to befriending, dating, wifin' up, not to mention me having less than zero respect for. These traits I despise are synonymous for what I love and require in, not just an acquaintance, but friend(which I do not use that word loosely and quite honestly hardly ever) These are non-negotiable. The second I spot one of these qualities-GAME OVER. Or, if spotted in a girl I've just met, lets say the same night even, I will then set plan b in action...get her home that night cuz I have already labeled her as a one night stand. If I can't talk her into coming home wit me (which the odds of that are quite literally- one in about 100)Yes, I've only been rejected once...which she rode wit her friend and her kid wuz at her friends house, I did hit the next weekend! Which, I give details so as to let you know me, not so much for bragging...and for the sake of honesty(which is something I have always been, not on some deep moral level, just based on the fact that I believe that there two reasons people lie-because they are scared of the repercussions of telling the truth or two, to get their way. You should be able to get your way on a real tip, and if you're gonna do something you gotta lie about, then that means you are indeed scared of repercussions...if something has you that scared, don't fuck up at all. quite honestly, I really hate havin to keep up with stories and alibis (a cat covering shit) and I've found that, I get a lot more respect for just keeping it 100. Like Luda says...Forget about game, I'ma spit the truth.
Awite, back to the traits and qualities....I have absolutely zero tolerance for ignorance for ignorance, wangters, people that only care about how people perceive them, not concerned at all for depth, truth, and even worse, ones that even convince themselves and lie to themselves that this superficial bullshit they're feeding themselves and everyone else is real, naw just BULLSHIT. That's the reason that I can't stand motha fukkas that dress all gangsta, talk loud, walk hard, or worse, think they've got game and that they're really doin summin when I woulda gonged em off stage a long time before. Not even close to being playa material, wife material, or a dawg of mine. But, again, it all boils and trickles back down to intelligence levels. And did i mention i have zero tolerance for ignorance? The ultimate, all time worse?? Someone who is ignorant and doesn't even have the intelligence to (1) admit it or (2) Thinks, boasts, and brags about how intelligent they are!!! I mean, lets face it, a truly intelligent person knows & thrives on the knowledge that there's always room for more knowledge and/or opinions/ideas etc., even if they have to listen to a hundred opinions or past experience of other peoples lives, the lessons and results are a much better you that evolves, who is actually genuine. You can take pride in the knowledge that your life and everyone in it(all two of them!!) is based on truth. Not based on playing your "role" and keeping up for appearances... to me , admitting your faults and weaknesses is truly a show of intelligence. I will always ask peoples opinion on certain topics cuz everyone has their own ways of handling situations...I will hear out antibody's view, opinion or let older men and women ramble on and on about stories from 1902... I will listen and even more important, watch a persons actions, and how they respond. I will always know that no matter how intelligent I know I am, there's never too much knowledge and no limit where I say no-naw, I'm at my limit. Some may find talking or listening to certain individuals opinion is beneath them. Cuz of course their so fuckin smarter then everyone else on any subject and this monotonous, "child's play" conversation that you were too busy, or too smart to even entertain any conversation from is based solely on assumptions and stereo typing.(Which, by the way 'intelligent' people know better than to write off or label the next). There's a chance that, even if it's just one thing, you needed to either hear, learn, gives insight on a totally different personal issue you're dealing with at that time, or maybe divulges information on how to respond or react successfully to a situation that you maybe faced with one day, or maybe you walk away not with new found knowledge, but just totally inspired, that's good too and 9 times outta 10-It's always those unforeseen and 'presumably' unnecessary conversations (that those "smart ones" avoid) that end up being a very nice experience and memorable conversation/first time meeting/ or just a new-found respect for a person from a personality "type" or background or lifestyle or profession that you would normally avoid at all costs. Maybe you avoid a conversation with someone because they are a competitor of yours-on any level-Me? I'm gonna listen to them boast on why and how they deem themselves "a worthy adversary" and all their skills and successes yada yada...first of all-the simple fact that this competitor is beating his chest is to (1.) impress you..(2.) To gain your respect or (3.) Just being competitive and enjoying the opportunity to give you details and insights as to how you don't have a chance to be on their level...Either way, by your reaction -being lack of which-and just sittin there "enthralled and awe struck," just sittin back, listening(one of my rules I live by-God gave us "TWO "ears-"ONE" mouth, I always listen twice as much as I talk...if not more.) Like I said, you already have the upper hand cuz actions are even louder than the two ears. So, regardless if his motives are 1, 2, or 3, you know you're obviously respected by him, otherwise they wouldn't spend time trying to gain your respect, Or trying to impress you, and even if its on some mind fuck /competitive tip...that tells you that as great and and slick as they think they are, they have deemed you as serious competition to even allow you to be renting all that space in their head and their obvious need to conversate & relate success stories(which inevitably divulges his techniques, tactics and of course they're going to be telling you ones that best shows off their quick ability to profile and decipher the best plan of attack for certain people versus the other response they woulda done had it been a single lady, young man with Daddy's money, an old black man..etc. responses, and reactions that made it a success-once again giving you knowledge to later, either use as ammunition and hopefully gives you techniques that you hadn't thought of and will benefit your position and success as well-which you were already a threat, obviously and now, even more so. Or maybe, while they're in that "Tree" state of mind, you're smart enough to be looking at the whole forest...maybe you'll recruit this guy when you venture out on your own. You're gaining information, maintaining self control by not getting in a pissing contest, which leaves them with a false sense of security that you are not even confident or aggressive enough to even justify their desire to even impress them in return (not engaging in the proverbial pissin contest) and makes them even more secure and cocky that hopefully they won't push so hard come next week or month-just like pool, if I'm playing someone with no skills, I slack off without even trying to. I don't take as much time on my shots or take the extra time to make sure I got in line for the next shot...yet when a real threat with skill comes to the table, I'm pullin off banks, double banks, playing defense when i don't have a shot, playing cocky-hell even banking the eight instead of taking the easy straight in shot...Why? Cuz competition is healthy...beneficial....and more productive...and the better the competition, the more of an affirmation of your skills when you win and the more you feel worthy of such a high self esteem and a new dose of self confidence, aggression and it then in return motivates you to think on the next level you want to be on, and start planning on when, what, how to make your next goal become reality...So, knowledge really is power and competition really is healthy/productive, and intelligence, to me, is practicing humility-to swallow pride, shut the fuck up, and listen to even to those who you normally deem unworthy, cuz that my friend is where a lot of knowledge is formed. One day I had a conversation with this young, extremely attractive guy and he was bragging on how great he was in bed...I, being a lesbian, inquired if he knew the difference between a girl having a nut and an orgasm(or gusher, as I sometimes refer them as) He boasts of course I do, you can't tell me nuttin about sex!!! I laugh and say, I'm a woman who has mastered the art of other women as I never had that greedy dick between my legs stopping me from truly pleasing a woman, and you honestly don't even want to hear what I could possibly teach you, even if it meant you could finally hear what your girls true sounds of satisfaction sound like instead of the porno style, fake orgasms she's been generous enough to give you?? I mean, with all due respect, if you really were the best, if there was even just ONE thing I told you that you didn't know, wouldn't it be worth it?? He said sure...so after about thirty minutes of explaining, teaching and divulging techniques, he was all excited, interrupting me wanting me to repeat certain parts, which means he was now actually intelligent enough to take mental notes to later infiltrate into his own GREAT abilities. I ended with, "and after you're able to make her nut and gush-at the same time and your bed feels like a waterbed-she will be so worn out and exhausted filled with such a relief and utter satisfaction that you'll have to remind her that there's still the matter of your dick that hasn't even been brought into play yet..." The next day at work he comes over to me and says "Flip, damn you were so fuckin right-i did everything you told me and it worked just like you said, she even said what you told me she'd say about the feeling of having to piss and I told her to not fight it and she just exploded all over me-literally shot out like a dude, and the noises she made? Damn, I thought I was gonna nut just listening to her and then she cried!!!-literally cried. Then she wanted to know where i learn all that...I just told her I couldn't go around puttin it on all the girls like that right in the beginning, I have to make sure she's worthy, otherwise I'd have stalkers all over the place!!" From that point on, guys who normally wouldn't talk to me cuz they thought whats the use, she's gay, would come at me at break, lunch, after work and we'd go shoot pool, I'd show them how to pick up signs a girl makes(other than the obvious of course)that proves she's interested, regardless of her words etc. etc....once again proving that listening, instead of choosing to think and believe you know it all, can be quite beneficial.
